A dog mom’s brother is “seething mad” after learning she spent $1,200 for an emergency vet visit instead of lending him $700 to fix his truck.
On Feb. 28, the 39-year-old woman detailed her family drama on Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum, explaining why she forked over the money for her beloved pet’s medical needs but not for her 26-year-old brother.
“My whole family is arguing about it now,” the woman wrote. “I wouldn’t have doubted that I was in the right before my father chewed me out, but now I feel like I’m losing my mind.”
She recalled that her sibling requested a $700 loan from her in December.
“I don’t make a lot, and I don’t have that much to spare at any time, let alone the holidays where I need to save for gifts, etc.,” she explained. “He did need it for something important: to get his truck fixed so he could still go to work. I get that that’s a big deal, but I simply can’t spare that kind of money. He ended up losing his job.”
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Two months later, her dog stopped eating and needed medical attention.
“We had to take him to the emergency vet. It turned out to be a dental abscess and it cost me about $1,200 to get him treated,” she noted, adding that her brother soon found out about the expense.
“He’s seething mad. He blames me for his job loss, claiming that if I had the $1,200 for my dog and not $700 for him I’m a terrible person,” the woman continued. “I was able to shrug that off at first, but he won’t budge and now he has other people in the family harassing me.”
Their dad sided with the brother and demanded she apologize for not having her priorities in what they thought was the correct order.
“They’re both saying this is proof that I lied about not having $700, but I never claimed I didn’t have access to that much money at all — I just said I could not afford to spare it,” she emphasized. “I have tried to tell them that it was an emergency, but they just say so was my brother’s problem.”
“My dog depends on me. I’m all he has,” she added. “My brother is a grown man who has other people he can call.”
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Seeking outside opinions, she asked Reddit, “AITA [am I the a——]?”
Within hours of soliciting comments, she received many replies reassuring her that she’s “NTA [not the a——]” for the decisions she made.
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“You are not obliged to lend your brother $700, even to fix his car, especially at Christmas with myriad other expenses,” one person wrote. “I’m assuming your father doesn’t want to take responsibility for not lending it either. And no friend came forward saying he was such a great guy and here was some money. If two months later you find yourself able to find $1,200 for your vet bills, then well done you.”
Another Redditor agreed with the dog owner’s analysis of the situation.
“Your brother is not your dependent, [he’s] a fully grown adult, and his problems are HIS, not yours,” that person commented. “Your dog is your dependent, it literally depends on you. Your dog can’t go to work and get a job that gives him dental to cure his abscess.”
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